I’m currently running OPNsense virtualised in Proxmox. It’s a little confusing if you haven’t run a custom firewall before but the setup was relatively simple and works flawlessly now that I understand it a bit better. The only downside being if you are running it on the same machine as your services and need to restart, your network will go down as well. Ideally I will get another machine just for network services as it sounds like you are doing.
Was planning on hosting from my home server. Will definitely read up on those protocols and the recommendations. Have certificates and domain routed through Cloudflare. ISP is Optus but it’s not a business connection so that could be problematic r.e: spam filters :/