So, I’ll be honest, I don’t understand most of the technical stuff about lemmy. I just know it’s open source, no ads/corpos, and all the individual lemmys can interact with each other like how emails can send emails between gmail and yahoo. But what does defederate actually mean? Like how does it change things? Does it mean that people with the @lemmy.one can’t see the privacy instance anymore? And they have to change their account?

Sounds like I have a pretty similar office job and I used to have similar problems with the exhaustion. There’s a few things that really helped I think. The first was to be more active at work. Obviously there’s a limit to what you can do, but don’t pass up any opportunity to get up, walk around, and stretch your legs. If you can take a break/lunch outside then do that. If you have some days where you don’t have too much work to do and it kinda feels like you’re just sitting there with no sense of time, or you’re just watching videos to pass the time, try to find something to do instead. Pick up any trash/misplaced things around the office, reorganize files, have a chat with co workers. This all helps to prevent the exhaustion, I’ve found. Then, when I’m out of work, I try to have non-gaming things to do. Like family dinners on fridays. This helps me feel like I do more than just sit behind a desk all day every day, and it makes it feel like more of a treat when I do sit down to game. I don’t know if these will work for you, but they’re worth a shot if you haven’t tried them I guess

They’re not complaining about not being able to share memes in the way they want. They’re complaining that, in the example they shared, they didn’t choose to share the reel with their friend, instagram just automatically did it. And they couldn’t find a way to turn that feature off. Furthermore, there’s a certain anxiety that many people have bc of how immediate and constant social media is. Like how read receipts put you on a timer to respond bc if you don’t respond fast enough then people think you’re ignoring them. Or if they see you posting or like some posts and not theirs or not responding to them, then they might get upset with you. So it feels like you have to constantly manage all of your relationships all at once bc there’s constantly a spotlight on everything you do if you use social media to connect with your friends in any way. Like are there alternatives? Yeah, but unless you really limit your friend group, there’s gonna be people who prefer to contact you via social media. It’s hard to avoid completely