• Fiona@feddit.de
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    1 year ago

    most people who are transgender know that they are transgender before they know the meaning of the word “transgender”

    Sorry, but I do take issue with that assessment. Societal pressure is one hell of a drug at creating denial and it can take a very long time before you are able to admit to yourself what you are (There is a reason why the term “egg” is thrown around so much these days). As a trans-woman who has only recently had a partial outing (though now with the goal to go through with it all the way) and still struggles with how much my gender-dysphoria fluctuates between unbearable and non-existent you are essentially telling me, that I’m an imposter because it took me 10+ years since I met the first trans-women to finally come to terms with myself.

    Also, when I’m already at it, not to you but as a big fuck-you to any transphobes who may read this: I guess I owe you pieces of human garbage some thanks, because all your hate-speech gave rise to so much awareness and support from people who I considered respectable in the first place that I felt a lot more comfortable to come out as who I am, for most people around me had made pro-trans comments at one point or another.

    • betheydocrime@lemmy.world
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      1 year ago

      That’s why I used the word “most” :) I don’t want to invalidate anyone’s personal lived experience.

      And I’m not saying that people have the full picture the second they’re born, just that once someone has that egg-cracking moment and looks back at the rest of their life suddenly, in hindsight, lots of mannerisms and desires and personality quirks make a lot more sense. That’s how I felt when I realized I was nonbinary-- I always felt the way I always felt, but I only recently decided to attribute the label of “nonbinary” to those feelings